It’s about the light you spark in others.
“Available to all, even the most silent of us, charm is a transient balance of honesty and curiosity. Where do you begin? You begin with the only soft skill you’ll ever need: liking other people. Do you tell stories because you want the person next to you to grow a little closer by resonance, or do you just like the sound of your voice? Ironically, the more you practice liking other people, the less you have to worry about them liking you.”
“truly charming people don’t draw you in by dazzling or blinding you with their looks, money, achievement — they do it by stripping away your pressure to perform, laying a blanket of ease with your humanity with humor, honesty, or untethered simplicity.” (link)
A charming person is not one that glimmers but holds a mirror to your glow — a conversation with them makes you fall for them by making you fall for yourself. Charm is not navel-gazed, but generated through your radical, loud embrace of both honesty and openness rooted in liking people enough to generously hand a piece of yourself to them.” (link)